New beginnings

It's easy to engulf yourself into projects, activities, people, and (in my case) your children. They're new, need attention and are interesting. Unfortunately, the new and interesting never fades when you're dealing with a child. They keep growing and learning subjects and surprising you at every second! A word they learned a few months ago, like "pattern," pops out of their little mouths and you are amazed! 

    The other issue with that is that you lose part of yourself and your goals due to the new demands that are required for this new introduction to your life. There has to be a balance between the devotion you set for your new interest. Of course, offspring can not be compared to a project, or activity. Your children are part of you, and your life. They are your morning, noon and night in a sense. 

     So many people complain about feeling sucked dry by their children, friends, or activities. It's not due to an outside force. Independence from this belief is experienced after you can identify how engrossed you have become. That's never easy, it always happens too late! 

Here are some points that will help identify if this new interest is causing you to ignore your needs:

1. How often do you think of this project, activity or person. (It's not possible to stop thinking about your child, so I'm not including that). Is it an obsession? 

2. Do you maintain normal hygiene. Like, brush your hair? Change your clothes? Shower?

3. Are your old habits and interests the same? 

4. Are you neglecting that things that make you you? Avoiding things you love, because you have no time? 

These are four things that I have identified in myself. That's why I'm putting them out there. If you can think of any other ones, feel free to comment. I stopped working out, putting on makeup, dancing, and even listening to music. I obsess over finding new learning methods and activities for my child. It's not healthy. 

I'm going to start to focus on me, where my anatomy, yoga, and health are top priorities as of today.